A little backstory

So I have been married to my husband for 10 years and 8 of those years married at the time of this podcast recording!

Throughout these last ten years, we have grown up together, matured, and laughed A LOT! We have gone through really high highs and pretty sucky lows. But through it all, our love remained strong!

When I was saved by Jesus last year, our relationship became the strongest and healthiest it’s ever been. But what made the difference are these tips for a healthy, happy marriage that I will share with you!

1) Obviously, communication 

When communication is strong, you can tackle anything together. 

For example, over the weekend, I went ahead and worked on getting everything together for this podcast episode. I told my husband hey can you watch the kids while I work, and he said that’s fine as long as we can go on a family walk later. 

Having an open dialogue where you clearly communicate your wants, needs, or whatever else, you become stronger as a couple.

When there is no communication, more problems arise.

For example, you spend $500 on your credit card without telling your spouse. That’s gonna lead to more problems down the road because you didn’t communicate that with your husband.

Our rule of thumb is to tell each other everything. There is nothing in our relationship that I don’t tell my husband or he doesn’t tell me. From work to what the kids did today to random things we saw on the internet, dreams, and passions, we tell each other everything.

This also helps us keep each other accountable

2) Let your husband lead in your marriage

For all my Miss Independent women out there, this might rub you the wrong way, but hear me out. I know; society says otherwise. But letting your hubby lead is biblical.

In Ephesians 5:22-23, it says:

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”

I remember when I read that the first time in the Bible, I was like, “haha, not happening, I wear THE pants in the marriage.” And as much as I do hold many roles and responsibilities as a wife in our household, I was very much against this idea. Holy Spirit worked on me with that one; honestly, it has made a world of difference in our marriage.

Why did it make a difference?

Well, he makes the decisions of the house, and a solid 98% of them are the right choice. Not only does it show respect to him in our marriage by letting him lead, but he’s also actually more confident in himself as a man.

The best part, we hardly get into arguments. I don’t feel the need to “hide” anything from him because I tell him everything, and he helps me make the big decisions.

3) God-centered household

Over the last few months, we have really focused on making our marriage and life with our kids God-focused.

Our priorities are straight- God first, marriage second, kids third, and everything else after. No day goes by where God or Jesus is not mentioned in our home. 

Why do we do that? To be honest, I’ve gone essentially 28 years without Jesus in my life; I will not have another day without Him.

By making our household God-centered, we have a stronger marriage and stronger family.

Complete transparency- my husband is Catholic, and I am Christian. Doctrinally, there are things we disagree on regarding our faith. But! We both can agree how much we love our relationship with our Heavenly Father and how thankful we are for the multitude of blessings we receive daily.

So to sum things up, here are the three tips for a happy, healthy marriage one more time for a quick refresher

1) Communication is everything

2) Let your husband lead in the marriage 

3) God-centered household

Want to listen to more episodes?

Make sure to check out:

002: New Age To Jesus (Part 1)

003: New Age To Jesus (Part 2)

004: 3 Things You Need To Do Before You Start a Business

005: How To Save Time So You Have More Time With Family

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